Saturday, May 7, 2011

Tired of "The Catty"

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I really get irritated with myself sometimes.  I have several annoying traits, but one that just chaps my hide is the fact that I never seem to be able to master the snappy come-back to personal insults!  I'm of the shoulda, coulda, woulda club.  I can sure work up a great retort after the fact, you know when you've tossed and turned all night and hashed and re-hashed the situation in your head for about a ba-zillion times!

We recently attended a wedding for our nephew and his sweetheart.  It was a nice affair and we had a great time catching up with family and such.  There's one member of the family that for some reason just loves to push my buttons.  The crazy thing is that she thinks I'm too daft to realize it, which is so far from reality.  Part of it is that I really, really don't want to stoop to her level, but the other part is the fact that I just am usually at a loss for words when this occurs.  The first couple of times it happened, I just blew it off, thinking that I was being over-sensitive.  It has continued every time I encountered this person over the last 10-11 years, and it's wearing mighty thin.  I'm afraid I have to do something that might make others uncomfortable, but it's time to stop her in her tracks. 

No more Mrs. Nice Guy. 


Q said...

Oh I do understand!!!!
I am soooo nice that usually I just do not retort.....
I am with you, no more Mrs. Nice Gal,
If someone is rude I will speak up and say so! I shall plan my response, "How rude!" I will say. I have wedding next week and I know the family member who loves to push my buttons.....
thanks for the courage to stand up for myself......

Saoirse in Spokane said...

They always say be the bigger person..rise above. But sometimes I just sling it right back at them. Sometimes I just look them in the eye and ask them, do you have a problem with me? If they say no then just tell them to knock it off and if they say yes, just say it's really your problem so deal with it.
Have a great day Vikki.